(12-04-2009, 04:54 PM)NaK Wrote: [ -> ]So I really like this girl and I don't know if she feels the same way towards me. It always seems as if she likes me and then she does something to deny that she likes me.
She always sits next to me when I have class with her, even if the seats are full near me, she will pull another seat to get next to me. Today she had this chocolate/mint thing and she asked if I wanted one and I said "sure", I thought she was going to put it in my hand to eat it, but she put it up to my mouth and I ate it. She's also very flirty with me and other guys. This is where I am cautious. I don't know if she is just playing with me since she flirts with other guys too. We had plans this week, but she canceled them both. She had this track/race thing during one of the plan days so I didn't really care, but the other plan day I'm pretty sure she was free. We webcam regularly when she isn't busy with homework. We sometimes text each other during classes. She sometimes talk about other guys in school to me saying he's so cute or they look like a movie star or something (she doesn't know the guys).
If I ask her out I don't want her to say no and thus ending our friendship, are these signs that she likes me or is it just that she is a flirty girl?
Let me first start by asking you these questions:
1) Are you 100% sure she is flirting with other guys?
2) If so have you asked around to find out if she is a whore?
3) And if she is a virgin?
4) And if she is serious about a relationship?
5) How much do you like her apart from any physical attraction?
These questions may seem absurd, but to ensure a healthy relationship (or to enter a healthy relationship) you need to be at least aware of the latter questions and be cautious.
To be honest, in all the relationships I have had these questions are what made or broke it. Generally if the last 3 are false then you are going to have a VERY rocky relationship, because:
a) If she has given her cherry to another man, she is bound to fall back to the man she had the most pleasure screwing unless she had a horrific emotional experience with that person.
b) In most cases the latter is only valid unless the 4th is false.
c) When you are attracted to a girls body rather then first being attracted to her emotionally and in compatibility (and let me say, just because a girl is the exact opposite of you does not mean that you cannot be compatible with that girl; I am in a relationship like that now.) then you are bound to break off as soon as the sex and physical attraction diminish.
And then, ask yourself:
1) Why do I like this chick?
2) How does she make me feel (not the head of your dick)?
3) Do I love/like her more and more when I am around her? Or do I seem to lack interest in her more and more every time I am around her?
This, my friend, is the general sketch of the foundation of a healthy relationship with a female.
(12-05-2009, 07:45 AM)NaK Wrote: [ -> ]Ok, I'll ask her this week or next week. If you guys have any more advices please tell me 
Also, how should I go about asking her to be my girlfriend? Going to the movies is one thing, but being girlfriend and boyfriend is another.
Just to touch bases with this matter; it is always different. In the relationship I am in now I told her if I still liked her in a week I would ask her out (she is the one who liked me first). The relationship I lost my virginity to, I asked her out right after gym class. So, between the two they were different. Do whatever comes natural to you.