I guess its not heathly.

[Tim]

I find when I have problems that are difficult to deal with I break the problem into the smallest steps towards overcoming the problem then work through these one at a time. Even though you may know you will come to a step where you can't continue, by the time you get there something might arise and it feels better to be working towards a solution any way. It is difficult to work out these little steps if your problems are because of relationships but you just need to work out what you can do to improve the situation.