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Well, I'm home now. And I'm gonna try to help ya with some things. .

The rich/populair thing.
Getting populair when you are rich shouldn't be that hard. Because there are tons of ppl who are gonna kiss your ass for you money.
And that's something you don't want, it's fun when everybody likes you, but they like you for your money. Not for who you are.
It's not easy to be "populair" on a real level. Nor is it really important, you just need some real friends. No asskisser, no ppl who "like" you for your money.
Be realistic, and find out if you are really "populair" or if you are just being used.

About the seperation thing. It's good you write your emotions down on a forum like this. You need to get those emotions out some way. It doesn't really matter how. But I understood you have little brothers, and you wanted to be a good model for them by not being emotional. That's 100% wrong. If you want to be a good brother you need to show emotion, you need to show them that letting your emotion out is a good thing, not a bad thing. Be creative and find a way to show them that letting your emotion out is good. Without damaging your ego Or just fudge your ego and have a real borther to brother talk with them.

Now for the bully like kids. If they bully you cuz you are rich, just let them. If you got some chill friends and crap, just be like arrogant against them, don't show off you money or something. But don't give them any atention as anger and crap. Let them talk, they will get bored. And they will lose the epic "bully-victim game".

And now for the part where you prolly are the most confused about. The girl . I've alsow had the problem that my parents won't let me date. Basicly it's not a really big deal. You don't need to lie to them or something.
The thing that your mom probably is worried about is that the relation with that girl or any other girl will make you do "bad" stuff.
The thing is that she's really stressed like your said. The last thing she wants now is you starting to get bad grades or start to smoke or something like that. I know you aren't planning to those things, but somethimes it happens. I don't know if you are new to relations... If you are there is a chance the relation will infect you in a way you may not like.
Anyway. I will just assume that won't be.
You need to confince your mom that you can handle a relation, assure your mom your grades will stay good, and you won't do dumb things.
You can alsow just let her meet the girl, if it's a smart good girl you know
If your mom meets her, and she sees that the girl is "good" she won't worry to much about you having a relation with her. That are just some little tips from me, be creative, I'm sure you know your mom good enough to get her familiar with the idea you dating someone.
Hope this helps

Owyea, the mature thing.
You may feel mature, but maturity sometimes gets confused with boredom.
If I understood good your social life isn't that active. You could start doing a sport, just test out some sports to see which one you like.
You may want to be 18 or w/e, you maybe think it's all easy and crap. No offence, but you are rich like you said. Your life was pritty easy, and you don't have any really big worry's.
I know almost for sure, if you just get a relation, do sport, hang out with friends. You will wish to stay longer 14. Years fly by. And before you know it you have all those obligations. And trust me, it ain't fun.


Hope all this will help you.
Excuse me for my grammar errors. This is not my native language


C.

(02-28-2010, 10:25 AM)C4Vendetta Wrote: [ -> ]Well, I'm home now. And I'm gonna try to help ya with some things. .

The rich/populair thing.
Getting populair when you are rich shouldn't be that hard. Because there are tons of ppl who are gonna kiss your ass for you money.
And that's something you don't want, it's fun when everybody likes you, but they like you for your money. Not for who you are.
It's not easy to be "populair" on a real level. Nor is it really important, you just need some real friends. No asskisser, no ppl who "like" you for your money.
Be realistic, and find out if you are really "populair" or if you are just being used.

I've figured out that there were some people who yes, did like me for money, but I've got rid of them, as I realized that. I'm not being used anymore, no one ever gets me to buy stuff or anything any more, so that's all good.

Quote:About the seperation thing. It's good you write your emotions down on a forum like this. You need to get those emotions out some way. It doesn't really matter how. But I understood you have little brothers, and you wanted to be a good model for them by not being emotional. That's 100% wrong. If you want to be a good brother you need to show emotion, you need to show them that letting your emotion out is a good thing, not a bad thing. Be creative and find a way to show them that letting your emotion out is good. Without damaging your ego Or just fudge your ego and have a real borther to brother talk with them.

No way could I have a "brother to brother" talk with them. It's just not how they go. We are all quite used to it now, and we don't really have many problems that we can think of right now.

Quote:Now for the bully like kids. If they bully you cuz you are rich, just let them. If you got some chill friends and crap, just be like arrogant against them, don't show off you money or something. But don't give them any atention as anger and crap. Let them talk, they will get bored. And they will lose the epic "bully-victim game".

Yeah, it's not really bullying, more just annoying me, and such. They seem to be shutting up, which is all good. Don't get me wrong, there good guys when they are alone, or not at school. Just at school, they seem to act totally different.

Quote:And now for the part where you prolly are the most confused about. The girl . I've alsow had the problem that my parents won't let me date. Basicly it's not a really big deal. You don't need to lie to them or something.
The thing that your mom probably is worried about is that the relation with that girl or any other girl will make you do "bad" stuff.
The thing is that she's really stressed like your said. The last thing she wants now is you starting to get bad grades or start to smoke or something like that. I know you aren't planning to those things, but somethimes it happens. I don't know if you are new to relations... If you are there is a chance the relation will infect you in a way you may not like.
Anyway. I will just assume that won't be.
You need to confince your mom that you can handle a relation, assure your mom your grades will stay good, and you won't do dumb things.
You can alsow just let her meet the girl, if it's a smart good girl you know
If your mom meets her, and she sees that the girl is "good" she won't worry to much about you having a relation with her. That are just some little tips from me, be creative, I'm sure you know your mom good enough to get her familiar with the idea you dating someone.
Hope this helps

I've a few relations before, and nothing happened that my mom would disapprove of. I've never smoked, though I know many people who do, and just seeing them, it's not hard to convince me not to.

Quote:Owyea, the mature thing.
You may feel mature, but maturity sometimes gets confused with boredom.
If I understood good your social life isn't that active. You could start doing a sport, just test out some sports to see which one you like.

I played soccer for a while, then I quit in grade 6. I tried to play it again, and it wasn't that great. Honestly, the sports I enjoy doing are solo, really. I love to play squash, and I love to ski. In highschool, next year, I want to join the football team, as it's a team sport I do like, along with rugby.


Thanks for all that;
Lukas

Have you tried to make new friends like go out and just be like "Hey"
to kids you think might have the same like as you? Also for the girl get at her! aha, if you like her that is my parents are the same way about going out with girls but I still did and everything I lied most the time, got caught and in trouble when I told her I was going places but it's all worth it dude, you will have a good time. Also try some sports, doesn't matter if you suck at least your trying, it's better than being some lazy ass and wasting your time, you might meet some cool people to.

Yeah, I have friends and stuff, just, I do live quite far away from them.
I've tried sports, and I still do, just I prefer the solo ones. In highschool,
I'll play football and such though.
I'm still thinking about the girl thing.

Thanks.

Parents leaving sucks and so does your loss in popularity... Hope you feel better.
-TheOtherCanadian xD