Guide: Dealing with Bullies

[Jamza]

I got the Idea for this from a talk I had at school today but felt their message was just "tell the teacher" which doesn't always work/help.

I would like to point out at this point that I was bullied a bit at school earlier on so I sort of know what people feel. If people have any other advice on the subject or have any problems with these please comment on them, I'm by no means an expert psychologist etc.

Bullying is the hidden truth that thrives in the classroom and the schoolyard. We like to think that school's have moved on and that bullying isn't an issue, but unfortunately this isn't the case. Bullying still continues to this day and affects millions of children around the world every year, so the first thing to remember is you are NOT alone. Unfortunately Kids who like Technology and Bullies tend to go hand in hand in many cases (hence why I'm posting this guide here). The good news is that there are ways to deal with bullying and bullies and I hope to discuss them here.

1) Ignore it
Now ignoring verbal comments/insults may not be the easiest of things to do and it can be very easy to get worked up over words but the thing to remember is that in the end, its just words and words are open to interpretation and context. If you are in to science, you may want to try and think that all that has been done is someone has vibrated the air particles around you to take your mind off of it.

2) Stand up for yourself
When I say stand up for yourself, I don't mean be threatening, offensive or even confident. If someone has upset you don't go saying "I'll fight you" or anything that can make you wind up in a worse situation. Just pick yourself up and pluck up some courage to say NO or talk back. At heart, most bullies ARE cowards and pick on people who they think won't stand up for themselves, just one act of courage could keep you clear of bullies for your entire school life.

3) Accept it
Say someone has just called you a Nerd, you could stay quiet and show social weakness, or you could accept their comment (if its true or similar to the truth, don't accept something that isn't) and go along with it, asking them what their point is. I remember being called a nerd once and my response was "Im a geek, not a nerd, get it right". This can buy you respect from your peers for not being afraid of who you are.

4) Speak to someone of authority
Now, this should really only be for when bullying is becoming very intense or if any physical harm is being done to you. This doesn't need to be a parent or a teacher, just anyone who has the ability to help and most people will probable be willing to help. If you are being physically harmed by anyone this is crucial and in many cases it could be justified to speak to your local authorities/police if whatever has been done can be classes as assault.

Now, this is just me throwing something together quickly and I will probable come back later and rewrite bit of this and add more, but remember I am NOT and expert so please comment if you feel something is wrong or ineffective.