12-13-2010, 10:23 PM
First off I would like to thank you in taking your time in even reading this thread, it means alot to me.
Well to start off, I have to admit that I haven't dealt with this type of situation before and it's killing me to not get this out/ask for help, hence why I am making this thread. My best friend is going out with my ex girlfriend from some time ago.
Your probably thinking, well she is your EX gf. Yes I understand that quite well, but the thing that bothers me is that I was madly in love with her. She was the type of person I planned on spending the rest of my life with. We both actually talked about it and planned everything out even down to what we would name our "future" kid. We didn't have to decide on anything because we both wanted the SAME exact things. It was like she was a mirror image of me, which is a good thing I suppose.
The fact that I lost my virginity to her vise versa kept me wondering and made me feel betrayed and what salted the wound is that she is with my best friend. I love my friend to death but he honestly doesn't care about her the way she deserves. He's the kind of person that is in a relationship because he fears being alone, I can't really talk crap about him because I am the same way but I actually do care.
I don't say anything to him because I am the type of person that puts people before themselves. So the question is, am I wrong for feeling betrayed because of the fact that my best friend is dating my ex? I know I should move on but we all have that someone we can never forget.
Well to start off, I have to admit that I haven't dealt with this type of situation before and it's killing me to not get this out/ask for help, hence why I am making this thread. My best friend is going out with my ex girlfriend from some time ago.
Your probably thinking, well she is your EX gf. Yes I understand that quite well, but the thing that bothers me is that I was madly in love with her. She was the type of person I planned on spending the rest of my life with. We both actually talked about it and planned everything out even down to what we would name our "future" kid. We didn't have to decide on anything because we both wanted the SAME exact things. It was like she was a mirror image of me, which is a good thing I suppose.
The fact that I lost my virginity to her vise versa kept me wondering and made me feel betrayed and what salted the wound is that she is with my best friend. I love my friend to death but he honestly doesn't care about her the way she deserves. He's the kind of person that is in a relationship because he fears being alone, I can't really talk crap about him because I am the same way but I actually do care.
I don't say anything to him because I am the type of person that puts people before themselves. So the question is, am I wrong for feeling betrayed because of the fact that my best friend is dating my ex? I know I should move on but we all have that someone we can never forget.