11-04-2010, 07:43 PM
It sounds like there is a problem here, your grandmother is in no condition to be in a house with a (Please do not get offended, this is how I took it) Abusive care-taker. Firstly, what calms your grandmother down, or keeps her busy? Do the movies work? The main thing (If you can't afford a nursing home) Is to keep your mother collective and not angry/abusive, and to keep your grandmother busy. Try finding activities, (For someone at an older age and with Alzheimers) Coloring books, playing cards, cross words (Easy level), Childish as they are they can keep her busy and her mind active. If she gets tired, or completes them easily get harder crosswords/coloring books/games etc. But try your hardest to keep the stress off your mother. Something will happen eventually, and your grandmother will most likely get hurt. Is there an uncle/aunt that can take care of her? Instead of your mother?