09-30-2010, 07:24 PM
You are quite fortunate to have had a happy childhood and youth with your parents. No doubt your mum misses those times as much as you. Emotional closeness is difficult to maintain unless you continue to live close to each other, and continue to share your experiences with each other.
Many people wish they could go back, whether to act differently or whether to relive the past. When I sleep, I often have dreams of the past that I never want to awaken from. And I share your thoughts as well, that when my parents die I would feel completely lost.
The healthiest individuals are those who learn how to be emotionally self-sufficient, to be able to motivate and comfort themselves with or without the help of others. Give yourself time to learn how to do so. Until then, consider talking with your parents about these thoughts, and how you can navigate this time together.
Many people wish they could go back, whether to act differently or whether to relive the past. When I sleep, I often have dreams of the past that I never want to awaken from. And I share your thoughts as well, that when my parents die I would feel completely lost.
The healthiest individuals are those who learn how to be emotionally self-sufficient, to be able to motivate and comfort themselves with or without the help of others. Give yourself time to learn how to do so. Until then, consider talking with your parents about these thoughts, and how you can navigate this time together.