04-24-2010, 11:02 AM
The fact that you still love him is the REASON you are so angry. The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
Love and hate are actually closely related. It is only those we care about the most, that have the power to truely hurt us, and wound us to the very core. That's because those are the only ones we let inside, lowering our defenses to trust and love, exposing our vulnerabilitities. When they betray our trust and love, we become angry, both hating and loving them simultaneously.
When you continue to remain angry, and even hate, what it really means is you still care deeply for that person, extremely deeply, because love and hate are the strongest emotions we possess. When you are indifferent, you have none.
This is why the opposite of love isn't hate, but indifference. When you reach the stage of indifference you no longer feel any anger, hatred, or even love. You simply could care less.
As far as forgiveness goes. Forgiveness is not an emotion, it is an ACT you PERFORM. Kind of a ritual. We do not forgive our enemies for their sake but rather for our own. It is what enables us to release our anger and hatred, and move on to find joy, happiness, and even love, with someone else.
If we do not forgive, the only ones we harm is ourselves. Carrying around the heavy burden of all that bitterness and anger will only result in making you a bitter, angry person. If you continue carrying that burden, the only one you will suceed in destroying is yourself.
The nice thing about forgiveness is you don't even have to tell the other person you forgive them, and you don't have to trust them ever again either. As you actually forgive the other person for your own sake, you can do it by yourself, for yourself, and yourself alone.
I wish you the best of luck!
Love and hate are actually closely related. It is only those we care about the most, that have the power to truely hurt us, and wound us to the very core. That's because those are the only ones we let inside, lowering our defenses to trust and love, exposing our vulnerabilitities. When they betray our trust and love, we become angry, both hating and loving them simultaneously.
When you continue to remain angry, and even hate, what it really means is you still care deeply for that person, extremely deeply, because love and hate are the strongest emotions we possess. When you are indifferent, you have none.
This is why the opposite of love isn't hate, but indifference. When you reach the stage of indifference you no longer feel any anger, hatred, or even love. You simply could care less.
As far as forgiveness goes. Forgiveness is not an emotion, it is an ACT you PERFORM. Kind of a ritual. We do not forgive our enemies for their sake but rather for our own. It is what enables us to release our anger and hatred, and move on to find joy, happiness, and even love, with someone else.
If we do not forgive, the only ones we harm is ourselves. Carrying around the heavy burden of all that bitterness and anger will only result in making you a bitter, angry person. If you continue carrying that burden, the only one you will suceed in destroying is yourself.
The nice thing about forgiveness is you don't even have to tell the other person you forgive them, and you don't have to trust them ever again either. As you actually forgive the other person for your own sake, you can do it by yourself, for yourself, and yourself alone.
I wish you the best of luck!
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