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Fight with them. Mentally and through words.
I argue with my dad about stupid crap, like "Marijuana doesn't hurt you" "School is pointless" and other crap.
Keep on arguing till you win.

Make a change.

Walk up to them and say "Yo, I just finished programming another application, what'd you do today?"

But really, just keep programming if you love doing it.

Well I wouldn't recommend you start it with "I'm not going to college" I think you should say I need to speak with you sit them down somewhere and calmly explain to them your needs, your views on things and how what they are doing is unfair. I would like you to bare in mind that parents don't usually do this on purpose, they often do it because it is the way they think will work, if you explain to them that it is simply not working they may just surprise you.

Well you know, you'll probably be wailed. I wish you luck on telling them though, wish I was there to see you tell them.

(04-12-2010, 01:01 AM)Periwinkle Wrote: [ -> ]Hey SF. For a long time my parents have been under the mentality that the best way to rais a child is to attempt to shape them to be the ideal student and make sure that I don't have any free time to do anything dangerous. My parents have basicaly told me they would disown me if I didn't go to college. They are extremely unsupportive of my programming choices and take every opportunity they have to take away my computer. It's become the standard punishment.
Here is my question. How do I go about telling them I don't want to go to college, and that I really dot care about school in general. I'm currently doing well enough to be able to graduate on stage and get a diploma, but I really don't care wether or not I pass with flying colors. Graduation is all that matters to me. I don't care about what grades I get while doing it. What should I tell them, or should I tell them at all?

No offense, but in this case I would listen to your parents. They are trying to help you, although I don't agree with them taking away your computer often. But you should try to get good grades, don't be stupid as I was. Soon enough, you will not be able to get a job in this economy unless you have at least an associates degree. College is the way to go if you plan on sustaining a job with a steady income and benefits. If you like computers a lot, you should try to go for a career in computer programmer, they make good money and you can go to college for it. Just my suggestion. I mean you don't want to be a bum when you're older, do you?

School is one of theee (expresses how important it is) most important thing in the world. You won't be able to get into a lot of jobs if you only have a high school diploma. Think about it, you think your parents will actually support you and leave money for the rest of your life? No. Trust me, you don't want to work at mickey d's or a gas station for the rest of your life and get paid minimum wage. I'm not sure if they have university in the USA but that is what I would be aiming for. Most people can head straight into university if they have enough credits or an average A. What ever you're getting in school right now affects your future greatly...

(12-08-2010, 09:25 PM)Infinity∞ Wrote: [ -> ]School is one of theee (expresses how important it is) most important thing in the world. You won't be able to get into a lot of jobs if you only have a high school diploma. Think about it, you think your parents will actually support you and leave money for the rest of your life? No. Trust me, you don't want to work at mickey d's or a gas station for the rest of your life and get paid minimum wage. I'm not sure if they have university in the USA but that is what I would be aiming for. Most people can head straight into university if they have enough credits or an average A. What ever you're getting in school right now affects your future greatly...

In America university is called college, I am guessing you are from Australia? I know a lot of people from there and they call college a university as well. A university in America is a 4 year college which usually had on campus dormitories.
But I do agree with you, without a HS Diploma, you won't be able to get a job anywhere, possibly not even at a McDonald's or gas station, if the positions are filled.

(12-09-2010, 01:54 AM)null_trace18 Wrote: [ -> ]In America university is called college, I am guessing you are from Australia? I know a lot of people from there and they call college a university as well. A university in America is a 4 year college which usually had on campus dormitories.
But I do agree with you, without a HS Diploma, you won't be able to get a job anywhere, possibly not even at a McDonald's or gas station, if the positions are filled.

Actually, I am from Canada. University and College are two different things here. University is greater than college. All the students that do not have the requirements go into college for around 2 to 4 year and then they can come to university. The requirements are quite simple, do not fail anything to get all your credits from High School and pass at least one language course(all the levels.). University is for 4 years.

(12-09-2010, 04:01 PM)Infinity∞ Wrote: [ -> ]Actually, I am from Canada. University and College are two different things here. University is greater than college. All the students that do not have the requirements go into college for around 2 to 4 year and then they can come to university. The requirements are quite simple, do not fail anything to get all your credits from High School and pass at least one language course(all the levels.). University is for 4 years.

I see, so anything higher than 2-4 years would be called University? Interesting, I will have to remember that next time I go to Canada.

Do what you feel is the best path for you. If they love you, they should support you.
Try bringing that up.
(I feel my parents are the same about the not going to college part)