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(04-07-2010, 10:28 AM)Elektrisk Wrote: [ -> ]OP hasn't logged in for a month, btw.

He's around

That I am.

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Anyway, @majordave:
Thanks for the advice and whatnot; one of the things that I'm worried about is well...she's moving at the end of the year. I think that speaks for itself.

Updates, updates: nothing has changed as far as my mind has gone. I've gotten a lot of headaches/stomach-aches that the GP said was related to depression and stress, and forwarded me to a Psychologist. I don't know if that's helping yet, it's a fairly recent event.
She found someone else, it hurts, enough said.

OK, here are my two cents:

I don't think you should focus so much on one girl. I understand "she's different" and so on, but it's clearly not working out for you. She is disregarding your feelings.. can't you tell? She doesn't want to be friends with you. The only reason she is now is because you contacted her again. I'm not trying to be a jerk; I'm trying to give you a wake up call. There're over 6 billion people in this world, and you are letting yourself go through hell just for this one?

I'm 15 as well, and have also developed an "anti-emotional shell" that you have, although apparently not to such an extent. It's a good thing! You're not lifeless, you're just jaded. Maybe the Internet DOES have something to do with it, considering I spend most of my time on it. But, wouldn't you rather be jaded than some über sensitive kid?

I think you are so shocked because you let down this "shield" of yours and the impact of her toying you like that is NOT something you are used to. Maybe you should have gotten close to her, but you shouldn't've let yourself get so involved imo. Obviously, what's done is done, but you're still letting it get to you.

Have you lost sleep over this? I am willing to bet that you have, judging by how much you wrote on it. You owe it to yourself to just get over it. Obviously, that's not so easy, or you would have done it so far, but get this: You have to get the "shell" that you had before back to truly be "okay" imo. Your ribcage isn't enough to protect your heart.

(04-07-2010, 11:42 AM)Elektrisk Wrote: [ -> ]OK, here are my two cents:

I don't think you should focus so much on one girl. I understand "she's different" and so on, but it's clearly not working out for you. She is disregarding your feelings.. can't you tell? She doesn't want to be friends with you. The only reason she is now is because you contacted her again. I'm not trying to be a jerk; I'm trying to give you a wake up call. There're over 6 billion people in this world, and you are letting yourself go through hell just for this one?

I'm 15 as well, and have also developed an "anti-emotional shell" that you have, although apparently not to such an extent. It's a good thing! You're not lifeless, you're just jaded. Maybe the Internet DOES have something to do with it, considering I spend most of my time on it. But, wouldn't you rather be jaded than some über sensitive kid?

I think you are so shocked because you let down this "shield" of yours and the impact of her toying you like that is NOT something you are used to. Maybe you should have gotten close to her, but you shouldn't've let yourself get so involved imo. Obviously, what's done is done, but you're still letting it get to you.

Have you lost sleep over this? I am willing to bet that you have, judging by how much you wrote on it. You owe it to yourself to just get over it. Obviously, that's not so easy, or you would have done it so far, but get this: You have to get the "shell" that you had before back to truly be "okay" imo. Your ribcage isn't enough to protect your heart.

I should probably check what I wrote before so I can give you more of an update. We stopped talking.

Anyway, I'm aware of the fact that I have to wake up and stop being such a cry-baby about it or whatever, I'm just finding it hard to.

(04-07-2010, 11:32 AM)iintens Wrote: [ -> ]That I am.

@ elektrisk, see?

Quote:Anyway, @majordave:
Thanks for the advice and whatnot; one of the things that I'm worried about is well...she's moving at the end of the year. I think that speaks for itself.

What that says is she was probably telling the truth about not wanting to get in a relationship with you, because she felt she wanted to gain some experience. That doesn't necessarily mean with other guys, but rather she feels the need to experience life on her own, and isn't ready for a serious relationship.

Quote:Updates, updates: nothing has changed as far as my mind has gone. I've gotten a lot of headaches/stomach-aches that the GP said was related to depression and stress, and forwarded me to a Psychologist. I don't know if that's helping yet, it's a fairly recent event.
She found someone else, it hurts, enough said.

Well, for all you know, she might just be dating him for someone to date, without any emotional attachment that would cause pain on either side if it ended tomorrow. I had quite of those. During that year I wouldn't date my husband, I dated almost any and every one else. They came and went, and if they stopped calling, I hardly noticed because I hardly acknowledged their existence. No harm, no foul.

I never dated anyone seriously in high school because I knew that when I turned 18, I leaving to travel the world--come hell or high water! I was afraid if I entered into a serious relationship, I'd feel so guilty about wanting to leave, that I might end up staying and knew I'd then regret it for the rest of my life.

So I avoided guys I really liked, and any guy I dated who started getting serious, I immediately ended it, making a clean break. It wasn't because I no longer liked him or wouldn't have liked to have continued dating or remain friends. I did it to help him get over it faster and move on with his life. This may have caused more pain initially, but hopefully, for a much shorter period of time.

I don't know this girl, but it sounds possible she might be doing the same.

Regardless, I am sorry to hear you are still suffering and hope you feel better soon.

Take care, and I wish you the best of luck!

Quote:@ elektrisk, see?

I skype'd him to let him know there were new replies
But, if he says he is around, then he is, and I admit I was wrong.