It's not wrong, not at all. But you're living in a country where there are different rules, and you should follow them. I understand both of you (your girl and you) .. Her parents probably told her that she shouldn't do anything like that before the marriage, so she is strictly following this simple rule. If you love her, you should accept that.
Yeah somehow i little bit tried to force her, i just tried to convince him about how much i love her and i will never dump her but she don't even tried to say me just only "yes" .... i also said sorry for about thousand times via messages, things went wrong and now she don't even want to talk to me..
anyways thanks for the help guys...
(08-21-2011, 03:01 AM)Akinova Wrote: [ -> ]Yeah somehow i little bit tried to force her, i just tried to convince him about how much i love her and i will never dump her but she don't even tried to say me just only "yes" .... i also said sorry for about thousand times via messages, things went wrong and now she don't even want to talk to me..
anyways thanks for the help guys...
You had to be aware of what will happen when you are trying to do this.
So, I believe you should tell her that you really inlove and you wanted to have something more than a simple relationship, something more in-depth and that's why you wanted to take a step futher in it. I've got a good friend of me that lives in India, and he has a similiar problem like you, so you're not the only one.
No, ofcourse not. This is completely normal my friend.
(08-21-2011, 03:43 AM)Oliver Wrote: [ -> ]No, ofcourse not. This is completely normal my friend.
Normal, but not in India, my friend.
(08-21-2011, 03:44 AM)WhosYourDaddy Wrote: [ -> ]Normal, but not in India, my friend.
Might be wrong. but it looks like your post boosting, it's kinda obvious. Not gonna start a fight with you though.
I personally don't see the point in stating what normal is, and that may help the original poster define his own values. Of course you have to go by the assumed norm in society otherwise you would just be out of it, and you wouldn't fit in with the rest of society, but that seems to be a corrupt system because it doesn't allow for people to have their own true sense of personal morals and values if other's can't be accepting of them or at least understanding. Unless it's some kind of act that goes against her personal beliefs and attacks her morals directly, I don't see why it would be considered wrong in her eyes. Other than she may just be influenced by something other than her own ability to think of her own values and ideas, (usually family or friends have this kind of influence).
It's the same thing for kids growing up and their parent's telling them that they have to be engineers to succeed. Maybe it's true, maybe it isn't, because engineers make a bit of money. But then you take a step back to look at it in perspective once more; "What is success?". Do you need money to be successful? It differs from person to person, but you didn't necessarily get to choose your own values and beliefs, they were just indoctrinated into you because you believed that it was the "norm" in society to get a good job otherwise you aren't successful.
(08-20-2011, 02:32 PM)Christy™ Wrote: [ -> ]You may think you love her now. But in reality you might not always be with her, she stood strong with her morals. Most people that have sex when there young, break up and then when you get married its not as special. Sex in her eyes is very important and she is waiting till she gets married for it.
There is nothing wrong with what you did but if she said no, you should respect her desires and wants. Sex isn't everything in a relationship, and sex for a girl is alot different then for a guy.
This, perfect. More respect.
Hey Akinova,
No it's not wrong, not wrong at all. You just have to try and explain to her the way you feel, try and get her to realize that it's a good thing what you wanted to do, because you wanted to do it out of love. Love is always hard, and can be extremely tough. You just have to sit through it and hope that things get better.
I hope this helped you, if you need any advice just say so and I will reply.
That sucks, doesn't she wanna be your girlfriend now? Maybe just try to get married, and then you're free to go.