(02-17-2011, 04:29 PM)haphazard Wrote: [ -> ]I went through one of these before....
just leave the girl. disapear
lose ALL contact
dont reply, just leave
it will get her thinking about you more, the 'lack' of you will make you more 'valuable' to her. not that it matters, if she likes the other guy then she will probably chase after him (women are real bitches)
To be fair, this is a basic psychological strategy. It is known as the "no contact" rule, the theory being that a person has to miss you to appreciate what is lost. And you have to literally make yourself lost to the other person, which means you do not allow contact at all, until they are prepared for a relationship.
It works on guys and girls, regardless of maturity, intelligence or sincerity, which is why it can also be abused.
(02-17-2011, 05:15 PM)Eve Wrote: [ -> ]To be fair, this is a basic psychological strategy. It is known as the "no contact" rule, the theory being that a person has to miss you to appreciate what is lost. And you have to literally make yourself lost to the other person, which means you do not allow contact at all, until they are prepared for a relationship.
It works on guys and girls, regardless of maturity, intelligence or sincerity, which is why it can also be abused.
Well hopefully it will work for him, I don't think it would be abused (how so could it be?) Good luck Astrael.
(02-17-2011, 05:17 PM)Istandor Wrote: [ -> ]I don't think it would be abused (how so could it be?) Good luck Astrael.
It can be used to manipulate people who are confused about their feelings.
Search online for the phrase, "no contact rule" and you will find a range of experiences and e-books. The experiences will help to strengthen your resolve beyond two weeks. Don't waste time with the e-books.
It's true, it can be "abused". It's extremely effective if your feelings for each other are really deep.
She just texted me "This crap sucks!"
What do? Ignore, or respond with too bad?
Ignore.
I repeat, do nothing.
(02-17-2011, 07:24 PM)Eve Wrote: [ -> ]Ignore.
I repeat, do nothing.
Don't worry. Nothing has been done. It's nice to know she's thinking about me though. Might I ask if you're a member of hackforums?
I pretty much agree with all that Eve has said. You need to give her time to let her realize your importance. If she really loves you like you say she does, she will understand that she needs to stop playing or fooling herself as well as you and decide for once and for all whom exactly she wants her future to be with.
I hope with all my heart that everything turns out well for you.
(02-17-2011, 07:31 PM)Astrael Wrote: [ -> ]It's nice to know she's thinking about me though. Might I ask if you're a member of hackforums?
Good to hear that you are staying strong. Remember that it is not enough for her to be thinking about you -- she needs to be clear about her feelings.
I'm not a member at that forum.
Well I ended up talking to her last night because she said some stuff that worried me. I'm going to see her today just to make sure she's alright, but for the most part I'm not contacting her at all. I've calmed down a lot emotionally and things are going pretty well. Made a few friends at a party 2 nights ago at a friends dorm, so I'm not too bummed out. I still miss her and think about her like crazy, but I'm coming to terms with the fact that she may not be in my life forever.