03-13-2011, 07:16 PM
Oh yes, there is certainly a reason for the way he acts. Always is a reason. But I learned to not let that be the reason why I should stay. I can't stay for sympathy.
His dad talks to him the same way. He has had 3 different mothers. His birth mother abandoned him with his father. And his dad cheated on his last wife for the past 3 years. My ex never had a real mother in his life. My ex has had multiple relationships and he told me he hadn't told any girl he loved them in about 6 years. I was in the longest relationship he had and also the most intimate. He did things for me he never did for other women. I told him he should go get therapy for overcoming his past, but he is hell-bent on 'doing it myself.' I offered to call for him and this lasted for months where I tried for him. I hope he does get the help he needs.. I'm only glossing the surface, but he has not had an easy life.
I did what I could... but he needs to do it for himself. Now I can only move on. I don't see us together again because I don't think he will change. I can't keep doing what I was doing and I did a lot... I was more than patient with him. If he does change, I only hope for good things for him.
His dad talks to him the same way. He has had 3 different mothers. His birth mother abandoned him with his father. And his dad cheated on his last wife for the past 3 years. My ex never had a real mother in his life. My ex has had multiple relationships and he told me he hadn't told any girl he loved them in about 6 years. I was in the longest relationship he had and also the most intimate. He did things for me he never did for other women. I told him he should go get therapy for overcoming his past, but he is hell-bent on 'doing it myself.' I offered to call for him and this lasted for months where I tried for him. I hope he does get the help he needs.. I'm only glossing the surface, but he has not had an easy life.
I did what I could... but he needs to do it for himself. Now I can only move on. I don't see us together again because I don't think he will change. I can't keep doing what I was doing and I did a lot... I was more than patient with him. If he does change, I only hope for good things for him.