Quote:what calms your grandmother down, or keeps her busy?
At this point, almost nothing. Even when either of us would sit and watch TV with her, it'll only keep her in place for a certain period of time. After that, she experiences this uncontrollable urge to get up, almost as if she's suffering from OCD, but that's not the case. When I started paying more attention to her reasoning for needing to get up off the sofa, it always has something to do with my mom. I've come to the conclusion that after my uncle's passing, she's very clingy and always up my mother's ass, so to speak. Normal?
Also, my mother does not want my grandmother to fall asleep during the day because she wants her to sleep at night, otherwise she'll go wake her up. And I'm sure most of you know, several months of interrupted sleep can be very annoying. You prey on your sleep and that it'll replenish your day's energy consumed. My mom doesn't have that opportunity and I really feel bad because I really do help out as much as I can.
Quote:Is there an uncle/aunt that can take care of her? Instead of your mother?
The only option, my aunt, was ruled out. We tried it but my grandmother kept waking up my baby cousin in the middle of the night and my uncle didn't want her there. So, we had no choice.
Quote:the only way to mend her apparent ‘vegetable’ mind might be to force her into accepting the reality of her trauma: that her son killed himself
For several months, we've had a clinic specialist come to our home once a week to speak to her about it. But some days, she remembers it and walks around our house with no endpoint in mind just crying out my uncle's name and others, she knows and clearly mentions that he died, usually when she sees me. For instance, if I take a shower and hop over to my room, she'll see me and whine about how I remind her of her son when he was young. But the next day, you may find her wandering about in the night, or even day, calling out her son's name, as if she's expecting him to answer.
Quote:Please give us all another update soon, as more information may eventually lead to a member supplying advice good enough to effect your current circumstances in a positive way.
I will do my best to keep updating this thread will information as it comes to me but keep in mind, I post information on this thread as mere replies, so for any newcomers, if you'd like to provide a suitable response or advice, please read my OP and replies in an effort to avoid repeated suggestions.
Lastly, I really do appreciate the time and effort you have all put into assuring my family's well-being. Your responses are all very in-depth, insightful and undoubtedly more useful than those of SF's owner's sister site, Hack Forums; the home of immaturity.