09-22-2010, 12:53 AM
It does sound like Alzheimer's but i am no expert.
I did have a sort of similar experience.
It was my Grandmother that lost her marbles though. And at the time i loved her so much i did not care what she did or said. I just tried to make her life a little better each day. Ultimately she died from her illness and life went back to normal.
For me this was quite a short process. A few months.
But if this would have went on for years then yes. It would have had a drain effect on the family much as your talking about now.
I hate to say this. I really do.. But my thoughts are this.
Sanity is important. Without it stress is able to take over. Like it appears is happening to your mum.
You need to get her into a home. You really do. Even if it means another mortgage on your family home.
Family is most important. More important that $ and cents.
She needs to be taken care of. (and your family is trying) But you also need to look after each other.
Your family will be around long after her. No offense intended in that statement.
I really think a move to a nursing home or perhaps a caravan out the back or something is needed.
Often when someones mind gets to this point they cant remember anything.
So to spend large periods of time in confined quarters is not that bad. Sounds bad but in reality its not.
Either way. I admire what your trying to do. And wish you all the best.
I did have a sort of similar experience.
It was my Grandmother that lost her marbles though. And at the time i loved her so much i did not care what she did or said. I just tried to make her life a little better each day. Ultimately she died from her illness and life went back to normal.
For me this was quite a short process. A few months.
But if this would have went on for years then yes. It would have had a drain effect on the family much as your talking about now.
I hate to say this. I really do.. But my thoughts are this.
Sanity is important. Without it stress is able to take over. Like it appears is happening to your mum.
You need to get her into a home. You really do. Even if it means another mortgage on your family home.
Family is most important. More important that $ and cents.
She needs to be taken care of. (and your family is trying) But you also need to look after each other.
Your family will be around long after her. No offense intended in that statement.
I really think a move to a nursing home or perhaps a caravan out the back or something is needed.
Often when someones mind gets to this point they cant remember anything.
So to spend large periods of time in confined quarters is not that bad. Sounds bad but in reality its not.
Either way. I admire what your trying to do. And wish you all the best.